Introduction

In this book, we will openly discuss issues that pertain to ‘romance in Islam’. It is important for anyone seeking insight into the religion of Islam that they understand that Islam is not simply a ‘religion’, it is a way of life. The Prophet was very keen in instilling high moral character in his Companions and he himself lived by a high moral standard. God, the Exalted, says: “You have indeed in the Prophet of God a good example for those of you who look to God and the Last Day, and remember God always.” (33:21)

The ‘good example’ the Prophet left is a way of life, which also touches on the ‘sensitive side’ of a relationship between husband and wife.

The best way to highlight this topic is by mentioning the various situations in which the Prophet displayed these beautiful manners. God, the Exalted, says about Prophet Muhammad: “And indeed, you are of a great moral character.” (68:4)

Prophet Muhammad conveyed the entire message that God revealed to him. He never withheld any portion of it, whether it was of a public or private nature. Every action the Prophet performed, statement he said and approval he issued are the legal grounds of Islamic Judicial law. A Muslim believes that when they uphold the example of the Prophet they would achieve the pleasure of God and would be blessed with entry into the Heavenly Abode. God, the Exalted, says: “Say, ‘if you love God, follow me and God will love you and forgive you your sins. God is most forgiving, and most merciful.’” (3:31)

The bond between Muslims and God is based on love; a Muslim performs all that he is instructed with and refrains from what he has been forbidden from on account of love. It is on account of love that a person is able to go beyond base human desires and uphold an ethical code of manners that is based on mercy and affection towards others. One of the highest forms of love is when a believer favors the Prophet over himself and is able to let go of worldly possessions for the sake of God. God, the Exalted, says: “Say, "If your fathers and your sons and your brothers and your spouses and your tribe, and the worldly goods which you have acquired, and the commerce which you fear will decline, and the homes you love are dearer to you than God and His Messenger and the struggle for His cause, then wait until God fulfills His decree. God does not guide the disobedient people."” (9:24)

Islam is not a religion of difficulty; rather, it is a simple way of life. Everything that occurs in the course of a Muslim’s life has a reference in Islam, so Islam not only propagates beliefs, judicial laws and mannerisms, but it also touches on the finer aspects of life, such as character building and raising one’s self-esteem. It also clarifies in great detail how one is to behave with their family and those around them. In general, Islam guides a community to become civilized in all aspects. It is unbecoming of a believer to be civilized at certain times and uncivilized at others. The Prophet said: “Shall I not inform you of the true believer? He is one whom people entrust their wealth and lives with; whereas a Muslim is one whom others feel safe from his physical and verbal abuse.” (Silsilah #549)

The Wives of the Prophet and Recreational Fun

The Messenger of Allah was extremely keen to involve his family in recreational fun. When one does this, it would bring about a sense of love and respect among family members. A’ishah said: “The Prophet was sitting and he heard some noise from people and children outside. There was a group of people gathered around some Abyssinians ...